Individual Therapy

Do you spend time and money on self-improvement and wellness but still can’t make the changes you are longing for?

Have you heard that you simply need to “have a better attitude,” “think positive,” or “not let things get to you”?

What really drives our behavior?

While working with limiting or unhelpful thoughts and beliefs is an important element of change, the human experience goes beyond the intellectual. Our work together will consider two vital dimensions: the internal relationships between the parts inside you, and the ways you relate to the people around you. Here’s what that looks like:

First, true change requires engaging not only the mind, but the moment-to-moment emotional and body processes that drive our behavior. Sometimes our impulses, perspectives, and physical reactions get disconnected from each other or thrown out of sync.

Well-being lies in the integration of the many ways we experience and interact with the world. These include not only our thoughts and feelings, but also body sensations, physical movement, and the five senses.

Second, we are fundamentally social beings. Our experiences throughout life form templates for how we think, feel, process information, and respond. These experiences do not happen in a vacuum; they are uniquely shaped by the ways we have interacted with those around us.

It follows that this self-integration is most powerfully done in the context of a safe, supportive connection with another. We learn who we are in the context of our relationships with others, beginning with our caregivers and continuing throughout development.

And then, of course, many of our wounds happened in the context of some relationship or another. It makes sense that the most transformative healing also occurs in relationship.

Why individual therapy?

You may have tried meditation classes, self-help books, or other forms of self-care. These can all be wonderful resources and are often less expensive than working one-on-one with a professional. And in therapy, you will also receive helpful knowledge, information, and skills to improve your well-being.

But the primary advantage of individual therapy is two-fold.

First, you will have your own personal guide to be there with you and help you make sense of all your unique experiences and responses to the work.

You will also be provided with something arguably more valuable: a relationship in which you have the space and safety to experience healing. Because I will be present and attuning to your experiences throughout our sessions, you will have access to a second mind and nervous system to help you hold, study, and care for all the complexities within you.

You can’t pour from an empty cup.

Some may think that focusing so much energy inward might be selfish – simply too insular a way of relating to a broken world.

I could try to convince you that you are worth the investment for your own sake (you are!).

But perhaps an even more compelling point is this: as you move toward wholeness, you can create positive changes that reverberate out into your relationships, your family, and even your community.

A new way of being – for you and for those around you – is possible. Why not join me to see what you can find?